Sandy in the Pet Cemetery
Okay Pet People, I need witnesses that will stand up in probate court.
We've talked about pets in heaven and losing our pets. I want to talk about the day when The Boss loses me. Not the parities he will have, but what he's going to do with my remains.
I am SERIOUS about my wishes. I've made it clear to him, but he seems to think I'm joking. I assure you, I am not, though I am a jokester. I do not want to be buried in a casket. Though I am from PA, I feel like this is home now, so I don't want to be shipped back there. I don't want The Boss to spend money on a casket, or headstone or any of that. I want to be cremated AND I want him to take my ashes, as well as the ashes of pets I have creamated, and put me in a nice little hole in the ground next to my buried pets. I want him to get one of those little resin pet headstones and I want him to put on it "Sandy," and the year of my demise. Lots of dogs are named Sandy, so I will fit right in. Aarf! Can't put the year of my birth (1960) AND year of bye-bye, because that would let the cat out of the bag. LOL.
My home here in the country feels like HOME and this is where I want to be. He wants to go to his family cemetery the old-fashioned way. Fine I told him, I'll plant him there, but I don't want to go there, as it doesn't feel like home. I told him I'd haunt him forever and EVER if he didn't obey my wishes. I told him he could save a ton of money for his "I am FREE at last party." LOL.
So what is wrong with that? NOTHING. I am serious as can be when I say that is what I want. Then I want him to donate my things and some bucks to shelters and have not a wake or viewing and boo-hooing, but a PARTY where all my friends can have a great time remembering what a great person I was. Drinks are on me. LOL.
So, anyone else thinking along those lines? Above is a picture of my first burial of a pet, Penny. The picture doesn't include the little tombstone I got later that just says "Penny" and the dates of her guessed birthday and date of death. I also later trimmed a branch from a forsythia bush and stuck it in the ground on top of her mound, and it took,so now she has a little plant growing above her. The Boss can plant a dogwood tree and pussy willow above my space. Yogi is in a twin bed right next to Penny. I promise I will tell you all about Yogi soon!
posted by Sandy at 2/06/2007 12:03:00 PM
Pet People
19 Comments:
Sandy, I think that is a great idea! Like your Boss I know Jon would think it's a bit over the top but it is getting my wheels turning. Anyway I do think it is cool!
Love the idea, the older I get the more I find myself thinking what a waste of money a casket and funeral is. Hmmm.... we are sounding kind of morbid here aren't we? Put me down on your list of witnesses...tell the boss you have officially put it in writing!
What happens if the surviving spouse moves? Do you want to be dug up and carted someplace else? Are there legal restrictions to where cremated remains can be placed?
Sandy, As your YOUNGER sister I think I should inform you that it might be wise to consider keeping your ashes in an urn so we can share custody.....Your yard is NOT a good resting place for eternity once the Bossman gets a new chicky-pooh and she wants a jacuzzi installed where you're buried, HA HA. And don't forget, the Bossman is going to die too and the house will be sold. I'm not digging you up! Why not just SPREAD your ashes somewhere?
Yes, We are on some morbid subjects. I never in the light of day thought I would ever agree with Sandy. Light the torch, put me in a sealed jar, and put me in the cabinet next to a bottle of tequila. I also agree with Daisylouu, if Bossman gets a new chicky-pooh I want to invited over for fun and frolicking in the Jacuzzi. I’ll bring the margaritas.
No, there are no legal restrictions to where cremated remains can be placed.
Sandy, can we have some lighter subjects. I’m not the brightest fish in the sea, but I do know not to make comments on the subjects we have had lately.
A new first for me, I agreed with two females in one day. I need that feel good feeling. Here kitty kitty kitty............
Yes I know, double negative.
Dragon,
Step away from the kitty...
Slowly step away from the kitty...
Dragon, Dragon, where oh where is your loyalty? sandy is the one you know here. Sandy is the one who brought us altogether. Sandy is the one you owe much to if our business is successful, how could you party with her Boss with some new chicky in a jacuzzi after her departure? Just because you are male is NO excuse! For Shame I say! Get your priorities straight! You are now one of us or you are not! What's the word boy? I don't mean that lightly but you do get the gist of my loyality don't you boy? enough said!
Dragon. Boy was just for emphasis here!
Sandy, if you are truly serious about this, and I believe you are, then you need to put this in your will, and give a copy to your executor. That is the only way to guarantee that you get what you want. Otherwise, seriously, you are left to what The Boss chooses to do, because that is his right as the next of kin. Regardless of what we other crazy pet people say.
And I have to agree with Alice and Daisylouu. With no heirs to inherit the home place and carry on your way of life, do you really want to have your ashes planted in your yard?? I think spreading would be better too. Geez, can you imagine some poor new home owner years in the future tilling up for a garden and finding all these urns in the ground???
Besides, what makes you think the Boss will outlive you?? Maybe you'll be the one in the jacuzzi with your new boy toy! And I'll be the one bringing the margaritas, not Dragon!!!
Sandy I love your idea. I have to say that I too have always wanted to be cremated. It has never made sense to me to put a life-less, soul-less body in a box and burry it. For what; so the people who are still living have a piece of ground to stare at and talk too? I have never felt comfortable visiting cemeteries. It’s not that they give me the creeps; it’s that it feels unnatural. So I tell my hubby that he is to put me in a little box on his mantel and through a huge party in my honor where no-one is allowed to wear black. Then when he dies I can be put in his big box since he wants to be buried. In the mean time I get to haunt him and any little chicky-poos he decides to entertain. Ha-ha. And if he dies first, they're gonna have to dig him up.
I have to agree with Dragon on finding some lighter subjects to discuss. As much as I miss all the pets I’ve lost over the years, I think its time that we focused on the ones that are currently with us and the happy times we are and will share with them. Or on helping Dragon build his Kitty Empire.
What fun and crazy gifts did your kiddo’s get for a birthday or Christmas? (Just a thought.)
Daisy sister, you might be younger, but I am WISER. You are the executor in my will, so you better obey me or I will change my will and leave your daughter OUT! I want my ashes HERE even if I move, because this is where I have lived since moving to TN and it will always be the only place that really feels like HOME.Where would I scatter myself? No one needs my ashes. The Boss's new chicky-poo would just "accidentally" drop them and then vacuum them up.
I don't care if there is a jacuzzi on top of me! My pets and I will be fine and dandy under there.Plus the neice gets the house and she would be fine knowing I'm there.
And I think it would be neat if someone dug us up hundreds of years down the road. I often thought I'd like to write a diary about the house and things that happened here, to bury in a box or hide in the house for a future owner to find.
And if I outlive The Boss, then I don't have to worry that he will obey me! He's the one who has to worry, as I might ship him off for med students to practice on! LOL.
There's nothing wrong with wanting to be cremated, although it seems a bit odd to choose to your pet's side as opposed to your husband's side as your final resting place. To each their own. Just ensure your husband provides full disclosure on the sale of the home concerning human remains on the property. Some people are funny about that.
If no one said anything in the first place about ashes being on the property then how would anyone know about it? I mean people don't usually ask if there are human remains on the property they are buying do they? And how about houses that people have died in? That used to be a common thing and although not so much now, there is a lot of people who still die in thier homes. I had a friend who recently died at home in her husbands arms and I thought that was a sweet peaceful way to go. I'm sure she isn't haunting her home now. Anyway my point is just whay would you ahve to disclose anything? It is outside and isn't like a body is buried in the back yard. I'm not trying to be argumentative just curious.
Here kitty, kitty, kitty..... I go to the cupboard, get the kitty treats, and kitty comes running to me every time. It never fails. They also like to give me that feel good feeling. I really think they love it as much as I do. Why else do they come running? And I do feel much better. I’m telling you, they love it as much as I do.
Pam, I am very loyal. Yes I really am. It is because of Sandy, and my loyalty to her, that I will do my very best to see that Boss man has a good time. Boss may need that little extra nudge to get going down the path of recovery. I am already searching on-line for Jacuzzis. Man, there are some killer (no pun intended) Jacuzzis out there. Of course, so Boss man won’t feel uncomfortable, I’ll bring my own chicky-pooh (don’t tell the wife). Not that she would mind. Hey, it’s all in the best interest of Boss man, right?? I also would do the same for any one of girls. Boy want that be fun.
Sandy I’m glad that you and you varmints, ah I mean wonderful dogs, and cats call Tennessee home. I do think this is a pretty good place. If for some ungodly reason you get knot to the floor we will just leave you there. I’m writing myself a note: No vacuum for Sandy. Got it!
Boss man, I found this nice Jacuzzi that holds eight people. It’s really cool, it’ has lights in the bottom for those night time excursion. I’ll send you the web site via e-mail.
As Stacey commented, if ashes are simply spread over property there's no problem. The problem lies in burying cremation urns on property and then selling the property without disclosing the fact that there are known burial sites on the property. In Tennessee one can say that one opts not to fully disclose all known defects in the property. That does not protect the seller from being sued though. Let's say you don't tell the buyer you fixed all the plumbing in the house yourself. They buy the house and it all goes to heck. A professional plumber comes in and finds it's all horrible work that doesn't come close to meeting code. You, the seller, didn't disclose the fact that an amateur did all the work so the buyer couldn't say "That's okay I'll take that risk". Despite the fact that you (the seller) don't own the house anymore you'd get to pay for the plumbing. In the case of human graves being located on the property and not being disclosed if a buyer finds out and gets freaked out the seller could find him or herself liable for a hefty damage suit. An awful lot of people would not buy a house if they knew there was a grave on the property.
I will be a PET, why the pet tombstone. No urns involed, just dump that sucker out right in the ground, shake shake shake. Add Tramp, and any other cremations to the mix, nice and natural, earth to earth, dust to dust, ashes to ashes and all that jazz. How could one tell I'm a human remain. And I don't care, I'll be dead, so if some new owner complains, I won't be hearing it!
I didn't choose not to be next to my husband. He can join us. He wants to be in HIS family cemetery, I don't, because that doesn't feel like home. Heck, I got out of the Air Force for him, moved to HIS home state, the least he can do is plant me where I want! LOL. He doesn't want me next to him cause he says I'll keep aggrevating him. LOL.
Sandy, no urn or other container = no problem! At worst they'll come across your bone fragments. Big fat hairy deal. That's not a grave. Pet graves don't have to be disclosed.
I'm going with cremation myself. It's the fastest way to get those nutrients back into the cycle. DH knows to pick someplace pretty to scatter the ashes. :-) That will be what we do with our fuzzsters, Eli and Mimi when the time comes as well. Mimi is our tuxedo spay, 2.5 years old and 6 lbs of pure energy, cuteness and evil and Eli is my Momma's boy. He's 16.5 lbs of Cowardly Grey Lion (neutered) and 13 years old now.
Carmen, Thanks for that info, I did not know about that law but glad to find out. I knew there was a law about not being able to bury family member s on certain properties but didn't know about the disclosure of remains buried like that.
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