Two's company, Tweety's a crowd :(
By now you all know my cat situation. After lots of tears and consideration, The Boss and I have decided that what is best for Tweety, the stray we tried to fit into our home, is a new home where she can live free of terror and with people, whom she loves so much. A sweeter, gentler and more loving cat I've never met.
I know you all have told me that it will work out, that you have to let them "go" and believe me, we've tried. I did the slow introduction. They "knew" each other through the fence for weeks. Tweety never showed interest in "sniffing" them and Tarzan was on her like a scope. We brought her in and had her in her own room, as recommended. They had lots of time to smell each other, get used to each other. I switched the bedding, wiped them with the same towels. We had slow introductions with the carrier and then let them go, inside and out.
I thought things were going better, but they are going worse. Tweety now hisses and growls whenever they even just walk by, as the altercations she's had with them didn't go well, so she is more afraid of them than she used to be. When we let them go, Tarzan goes after her, which we have tried to let play out. She hisses and growls, he stalks. He tries to sneak up behind her and then pounces. He's cornered her several times and won't give up. Then even Catfish started stalking and chasing her, hair on his back up. Tarzan got a bloody nose once, but he keeps after her. The other night, both of them chased her under the bed and then Catfish went after her. She was terrified.
The thing is, there are cat cats and people cats. She is a people cat and would also do well with a similar cat. She doesn't mind new surroundings, loves laying on your lap, butts her head in your hand for petting. She doesn't even resist going into the carrier. My two, while they like some affection, are happy with each other and I guess, very territorial, both males. My sister's first cat is a very sweet female with the same personality as Tweety. When she brought in other cats, they kept picking on Sassy. Eight years later, they are still after her and she has to be put in a separate room every night so the others don't torment her. But they all live in the same house and have made that work. My living arrangements don't allow for that, and I don't want her to have to live in fear.
We both love her, but we want her to have the home she deserves.I just have a gut feeling, which is always pretty accurate, that this is just not a good match for her or any of them. It might work that after months they can "tolerate" each other, but I don't' want her having to live on the defense. And I emotionally can't go through these introductions getting worse, not better.
You know my situation where the cats live in an attached apartment and go in and out to a cat fenced in yard. While we spend time with them over there, they are content to be alone with each other. I don't want Tweety to be alone, specifically because she is so people loving. She deserves a home where she is living always with her people, where she gets lots of affection and can curl up on laps and feel comfortable and loved.
This has been hard on me and part of me says I should keep trying, but deep down I know she belongs in a better situation for HER.It's that intuition you have. I have brought lots of new dogs into a pack and put Tarzan and Catfish together, but deep in my bones I just know this match just isn't "right"
I tell myself my part in rescuing in her was simply to get her to where she belongs. Fate, Karma, whatever. And I hope I find that place for her soon. We even considered trying her in the main house with the dogs, but I don't trust Zoe, based on Zoe's reaction to Catfish and Tarzan. And there's enough chaos with those three without having them after a cat all of the time. I think she'd be fine with a dog, but one that is used to cats, and mine aren't. I want her to have peace and love.
I'm emotionally a basket case--I know most of that is my own doing--but I can't help it.
So, I need help from all you guys in finding her a new home. Keep your eyes and ears open and let your friends know she'd make a wonderful feline friend. As I said, she is not afraid of new surroundings and makes herself right at home. Even when the cats cornered her or jumped on her and she hid, I could simply grab her by the neck and pull her out--she didn't resist or act scared and as soon as she was away from them she became her old self.
If anyone is interested, I will be giving all her supplies with her: food, bed, toys, tepee, etc. She is spayed. She is up to date on all shots and vaccines and healthy as a horse. She's about 1-3 years old. She'd be great with children old enough to know to be gentle or any family at all--young, old, single, married.
Call me at 387-3500 and if I'm not here, leave a message. Or call 237-7063, though my cell doesn't work at my home and I have it on only when at work or in town.E-mail: firstname.lastname@example.org
Thanks all, and pray that some angel will welcome Tweety into their home soon.
On one good note, I lost 4 pounds, as I've been so stressed I can't eat much. Ha, the cat diet. :) Wish Tweety luck, she deserves it.
posted by Sandy at 11/12/2007 11:02:00 AM